I just decided that if after 59 levels of playing a job and you don't know how to cooperate in a party then <<Death>> <<You can have this>>. I've even let the mob nearly kill a few of these DDs before pulling back hate.
Maybe I'm sick in the head or maybe I need to take a break from PLD..who knows?
Anyone else have this problem? Or am I just losing it?
Edited for clarification
Some DD's especially the 2-handed variation don't know how to deal damage properly. As another poster pointed out, separate SE and LR so hate is more balanced and you cause less stress on your support/tank classes. If you do unload, have the sense to get behind for Cover.
The reasons for the hate control issues comes down to lack of skill and focus. This stems from many people nowadays watching TV, windowed surfing, etc. literally just spamming macro's. As a career mage, it's very easy to tell who is casting shadows or popping Seigan/Third eye and who isn't. Then you have the elite players who run a parser and stroke their e-peen smoking the other DD's. So there you have it, you either have afk morons or elitist asshats that only care about their own damage, take your pick.
The morale here is to keep your cool and know when to pass hate. A good player mage or fellow DD will know when you're doing your job properly. Hate control is a two-way street, always remember that. If your DD are taking too much hate, they need to know when to back off. This includes knowing when your Provoke or other hate spikes are up and watching your MP reserves.