I've been accused of being too **** on my PLD, but that's my thoughts.
I was once asked to come on my BLU to a limbus run (I was already geared up for it due to messing around/spell gathering and showed up 10 minutes after the gather time - I wasn't planning on going in, but they hadn't left yet, so I booked it to Jeuno). As the run went on, I got various tells from various people, including the guy (usually on DRK) who replaced me as PLD. The general comments were: **********, you DID put a lot of time into your PLD, didn't you?" Most of them thought I was nuts for spending as much time pimping out and being "****" about my PLD, but when I came as something else... they missed the **** PLD. (I want to mention that both of the PLDs did admirably - it's hard to keep hate off a DD who WANTS it and my BLU is close to the same level as my PLD, so when I went nuts, I tanked. The enmity merits certainly don't help the PLDs' cause, either, when they're on the BLU dropping SC's constantly.)
I'll admit that when I played, I was pretty **** elitist in one regard only. I expected MYSELF to have the best I could afford. I expected others to have what they could have (obvious, cheap but better choices over expensive pieces, for instance) but never expected anyone to live to my standards for myself. I made VERY few exceptions - I even used a PCC exclusively from 55-65 as a PLD when my brother took his first long break from the game. I expected myself to play to the highest level I could and constantly looked for things to improve. Being called **** or elitist, to me, was a compliment to me. Unless it was because I was expecting something from the other person (beyond having a spike necklace...).