angrymnk wrote:
I am slowly preparing for this wedding. We already have some **** out of the way, but now mom ( who is four thousands miles away ) along with gma ( who is not about the same distance from me ), are voicing their discontent about the wedding not having a catholic ceremony. Today, mom offered to pay for it so that I feel better about it.
First off, it's your wedding, so ultimately do what you want. Having said that, if you feel the need to balance family harmony with your own wants, there are still some issues.
Paying for it isn't the only issue. I seem to recall Joph and I getting into an argument about whether you can even have a wedding in a Catholic Church unless both (at least one?) participants are Catholic and active in the parish where the church is *plus* having gone through the whole posting banns and attending some training and/or retreat thing they do for folks planning on getting married (which may include additional training if one of the participants isn't Catholic). But even to whatever degree these requirements may vary from place to place, there's usually a looooooooooooong waiting list for a church wedding (plenty long enough to do all that other stuff). If you're planning on getting married in the next year and haven't already arranged this with a church, it probably isn't happening in that church.
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I am not looking for advice here, as odds are it will end up in a family row this way or another, but I am curious if your weddings involved advanced meddling of parents.
Hah. Ooops. Um... I've never been married, but tons of siblings/friends have. I think every single one has had massive drama. Parental meddling is just one form. You also have to deal with friends/family who might feel they've been dissed based on inclusion in the wedding party (or not), what table they're seated at, etc. A wedding is like that episode of Survivor where they rig a challenge to force players to rank the other players and has all the same potential for creating conflict. Of course, then there's also the issue of family/friends who don't like each other, but you have to invite them. Can't invite Aunt Sue without also inviting Uncle Joe, despite them being in the midst of a brutal divorce, right? This also leads to decisions about open bars.
Funny thing is that at the end of all that drama, weddings tend to work out anyway. It's amazing how once the "I do's" are done, none of that stuff people wrangled over and argued over and stressed over actually matters to them. It's like magic or something!
Edited, Mar 2nd 2015 1:45pm by gbaji