>Why exactly do you think that yourself (a RDM) has higher priority than the healer?
Simple, the RDM can heal too, and has the worst MP resting regen of the mages. Add to this we also have the least time to rest in party typically. Oh, and finally, refresh needs MP, and if I waste my last 40 mp on the white mage, we stop cold since the PLD doesn't have refresh, nor do I, nor does anyone else until I rest up. Whereas if the whm runs dry, he can rest and I can cover healing, and keep people refreshed too, allowing his superior MP regen rate to get him up and going faster.
>WHM mana is the party's life;
Not in any of my parties it isn't. WHM's are there for efficiency, not for "my god, we can't live without him".
>RDM or PLD run out of mana and everything is OK
If PLD runs out of MP, quite often hate turns to the next biggest hate person, which is guess who, the whm who soon after dies since the PLD can't regain hate, and the RDM has no magic to cure him.
>--a bit slower, but not a terrible tragedy. WHM also use much more mana much faster than anyone else.
Actually, BLMs tend to blow the most, followed by RDM/WHM depending on party (I know I blow more than the whms typically).
> I chalk this up to selfishness--Just the idea that because the RDM has the spell, he should cast it on himself first. I'm a WHM and if I die, then everyone dies--and still I will almost always heal the mele people first. You've got to put aside your own self-interest for the good of the whole.
I'm sorry, but you're running on the very false assumption that whm is invaluable. You're not. WHM are very efficient curers, and they too in the high lvls are there to add to the efficiency of the party. However, the party will most often not even stop if the whm runs out of mp as long as rdm is 50% or so.
Also, don't panic. The top 3 in the priority list almost always get the spell. The Reason RDM is at the top is we always need it. We are almost never at max MP. We are guaranteed to burn MP in large amounts. We get the least time to rest most often, and even when we do, we get the least effect of the mage types from it. PLD is next on the list because he is the tank. If he loses aggro, things can easily go very bad, very fast. Even if they don't, everyone else must limit themselves/burn more MP to keep the situation stable, making the party less efficient.
>Also, I think your reasoning is a bit off on when you think refresh is needed. It may eventually restore 120 mana, but this takes time, silly. Especially on a WHM who is casting *constantly*, refresh should always be on,
Almost right, but not quite. If you're at 100%, casting refresh now is a waste of the RDM's MP. If you are getting 30 MP a tick while resting, and you're only 30 from your max, then again, refresh is wasted on you. You will get it, but when you need it, not when it's effect is wasted.
>A RDMs job is to refresh. period.
You are *bleep*, period.