While I am not quite to 40 yet on rdm, after reading someone complain about "having" to cast "such and such" spell, I just had to speak my mind...
The party expects you to pull your own wieght, as they do from all jobs. Protect, shell, haste, regen, etc, these spells get constantly cast by one party member on another. Why? Because certain spells are expected to be cast on the tank, just like certain spells need to be cast on the mages, etc. If you have refresh (and you should have it on yourself constantly), then why not cast it on others? At least the pld and main healer? I mean a party is supposed to support itself so that all members can do the best job possible for less downtime and more exp. (Unless your doing a mission party, etc) Don't just tell a party to ****-off when they start asking for refresh. Just be sure to let them know about recast and your other duties in the party.
Anyway, if you are going to complain about any party member asking for any spell...stfu and don't join a party. Just solo. I enjoy being able to buff party members...sort of like a bodybuilder flexing. It's like, "Yeah, let me just cast this on you, and this...and this too." And then I just go down the line buffing everyone up. Even if they don't really need it. LOL. I do it because I can and because I want the party members to know I am going to do whatever I can to help us achieve optimal battle flow. Whether its enfeebling or healing or whatever.
I'm sure I learn more and different things as I play and level. If you look at my sig you'll see I do a bit of playing. I am rather new coming back to game after a couple years...lots of changes. But overall I've always enjoyed helping others and being in a party. When I get to 40 and someone asks me for refresh, it will just depend on where we're at, which is how I approach any situation. If we're taking a bit of a break, I would probably tell them I'll refresh them when we get ready to go again. Or maybe cast it to shorten downtime. Just depends. The bottom line is that you just tell anyone "no" or "f#$k y*@". Just be open and honest and tell them what your opinion is. I have been found to be correct and had people apologize, just as I have been wrong and apologized. It's called "communication". Try it some time instead of whining and crying and give other rdm's a bad name.